Reunited and it Feels So Good

I don’t know if this happens to other people, but sometimes a song lyric from long ago will pop into my head, and I will burst into song.  To be clear, I’m not a complete lunatic.  I don’t start singing in public places.  I usually reserve my performances for my wife.

The usual scenario goes something like this.  My wife will be watching The Bachelor or a similar program, probably wondering about her questionable taste in men.  I unexpectedly walk into the room and smile as I see the two young lovebirds on the screen, gazing into each other’s eyes.  I snuggle up close to my wife and start singing whatever pops into my head.  How about a little Lionel Richie?  “Lady, I’m your knight in shining armor, and I love you.  You have made me what I am, and I am yours.”  You have to know me to understand that I’m not making a romantic overture. 

Sometimes I get a laugh out of her, but just as often I am dismissed hastily.  I admit it; I can be annoying.  In marriage, you learn to deal with each other’s quirks. (Some might call them annoyances.)  This routine is ours, and we often laugh a lot during a typical day.

For four months we have spent a lot of time together.  Part of this has to do with us enjoying retirement, but mostly it is a symptom of COVID.  I am very seldom depressed as I have so many things to be grateful for.  I can count the number of times that I’ve felt down in the last four years on one hand.  When I started feeling low at the beginning of the pandemic, it was strange.

Many other people I’ve talked to underwent something similar.  When my environment became restrictive, I felt trapped.  Many of the things I enjoy doing were suddenly gone.  How about going to the gym? Out.  Volunteer work? Nope, it’s temporarily suspended.  Maybe I’ll socialize with friends?  It’s nearly impossible in person.  Why don’t I watch some sports?  The leagues are all shut down.  Should we go out to eat?  Nothing was open.  I’ve got plenty of time, so why don’t I write something?  The creative juices were missing.  On top of that, our favorite dog got cancer, and we had to put him down prematurely. 

Since you have also lived this experience, I know I’m not telling you anything new.  Many other people I talked to have gone through something similar.  Some days I’d feel guilty for feeling sorry for myself.  How dare I feel sad when so many others are paying the ultimate price?

We all deal with situations differently.  As a mostly extroverted person, it was hard for me to rationalize when others told me their lives hadn’t changed much. What??? I’m going crazy.  I missed my friends.  Facebook, FaceTime, Zoom, and the telephone are better than nothing, but they’re just not the same as sharing a hug, a laugh, or a story in person.

Finally, I snapped out of it.   I turned off the television, quit paying attention to the sad news of the virus and violence, and started writing again.  I got my mojo back.

Things are still far from ordinary, but I’m adjusting.  I walk four miles a day, and that is better than sitting around the house all day.

After four months, my writing critique group is back.  That’s when I knew I was my old self again.  I was with my friends and colleagues doing what I enjoy.  We wore face masks during our meeting as we are all in the higher risk group being a little older, and virus cases are on the rise in our area.  After the last session, I was driving home, and I thought of an old song (Reunited) by the duo, Peaches and Herb.  In reality, it’s a love song, but I do like the reunited sentiment.

[Chorus:]
Reunited
And it feels so good
Reunited
‘Cause we understood

There’s one perfect fit
And sugar, this one is it
We both are so excited ’cause we’re
Reunited
Hey, hey

I didn’t start singing in the car, but the lyrics popped into my head.  I hope you have your mojo back or never lost it in the first place.  Perhaps you adjusted better than I did.     

50 thoughts on “Reunited and it Feels So Good

  1. Glad you’re writing group is together again and you’ve got your mojo back Pete.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 3, 2020 — 10:07 pm

      Thanks, Kim. It was long overdue on both counts. Happy Independence Day!

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  2. Glad you got your mojo (and writing group) back! It is fascinating how we have this collective experience that we are all sharing. It reunites us as human beings.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 3, 2020 — 10:13 pm

      It’s interesting to me that some people have told me it’s business as usual for them. I suppose if you are a stay-at-home person, that might be the case. How are all your dogs doing with the fireworks? Our poor girl gets pretty wound up. We got her one of those thunder shirts, and that seems to help some.

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      1. A lot of things didn’t change for us since all four of us work from home, yet, everything else changed. Our social behaviour, our consuming habits, or recreational, our collective psyche – all went through a recalibration period. Alas, we have no more animals with us, but our dog didn’t mind the fireworks as much as the horses did. They would run around like crazy and I was always afraid that they will hurt themselves. Especially when our next door neighbours went all out with their fireworks..

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  3. Glad to hear your mojo is back, and what you described is probably what all of us have gone through a bit during this crazy time. Your wife sounds wonderful and I love that you said you two laugh every day

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    1. petespringerauthor July 3, 2020 — 10:15 pm

      She’s put up with me for almost thirty-four years, I’d say that pretty much qualifies her as a superstar. Thank goodness for laughter as it gets us through some of the craziness.

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  4. I recognise those feelings too, Pete. I’m pleased your writing group is meeting again and that you have your mojo back.
    I don’t like hearing that the cases in your area are on the increase. I hope you all stay safe.
    I hadn’t heard Reunited before. Thanks for sharing it.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:23 am

      Yes, things are looking reasonably grim these days. I forget how many, but over thirty states are on the rise with the virus. It seems like some are living in some sort of alternative reality. Oh well, we can only control our choices. Thanks so much for the ecard.

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      1. I don’t like the look of that alternate reality and hope that it doesn’t spread into our reality. Stay safe. Happy days.

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  5. Good to know your mojo has returned. I’m sure your wife will appreciate it 😉

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:25 am

      Thank you, Clive. It’s been a good reminder to me that we never know what is going on with someone’s mental health, despite how they may appear on the exterior.

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      1. It’s a helpful thing to know, as many of us are good at hiding it. Glad you’re feeling well again now and are getting back the things which help you enjoy life.

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  6. Still awaiting the arrival of my own mojo… but he must be waiting until the coast is clear and that won’t happen for a while…

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:29 am

      I think part of that comes from not being able to connect more with people—best wishes in getting back in the saddle soon.

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      1. I hope so, Pete…or I will have to hang up my spurs!

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  7. A wonderful post, Pete! I am glad you have found your mojo, as I have been missing your words. Laughter and love should always go together. Really great to hear your are back to your writing group. Those are the connections we miss most through this crisis. The people who support our writing efforts breathe much life into our works. Stay well, keep singing, and have a great 4th!

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:32 am

      As someone who puts words down daily, you understand the power of the human connection. Thanks for the support, and let’s hope that the 2nd act in 2020 is a little more uplifting.

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  8. It’s good to hear things are moving in the right direction where you live, Pete. I think I’ve told you that I don’t mind being at home. I don’t miss going to work or the shops. I wanted to write something I do miss, but I can’t think of anything. Hmmm! Glad you writing is going well and looking forward to your new book.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:35 am

      I think you’ve got so many irons in the fire that you don’t have time to sit around missing things. I hope you continue to find that balance of managing your personal and professional life.

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      1. My professional life is seasonal, Pete. I have busy seasons. Usually is is busy from Feb to March with a quiet June and July and then frantic form Aug to November. This year has been busy throughout so far but who knows what the end of this year holds.

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  9. I am old enough to remember that song. Now I will have that tune in my head from the rest of the day…. 🙂

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:38 am

      I know what you mean about getting songs stuck in your head. The brain is the most curious instrument as we often don’t think of something for the longest time until it magically reappears.

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      1. Music has been part of me since I was about 8 yrs old.
        Started singing with my grandfather “Bluegrass Gospel”.
        Then when he died I took up the piano. It led me to have the opportunity of a lifetime. An itinerant preacher asked me to travel and be the organist.
        I seem to relate more with music more than anything else.

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  10. I wish my husband would sing to me! Lol. He does the funniest version of “Born Free” and makes me crack up every time. I’m usually upbeat, Pete, and have been struggling with this pandemic. It was disorienting to me too. Your ability to turn things around is encouraging since I don’t think this thing is going away any time soon. Thanks for the great song!

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 8:42 am

      When something is bugging me, I go out and try to fix it. Yet, some problems are too big to tackle on our own. Perhaps the best we can hope for is to continue to lift up each other’s spirit. “Born Free” is the kind of song I could have fun with. I appreciate your husband’s sense of humor. 😎

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  11. I’m with you, Pete. Most of my angst was for people who lost jobs and needed the money. Me, I teach online. My sales mostly come from the web. Most of my days are spent at my computer. I worry not so much anymore about COVID but the anger and violence moving through the country. So, I’m praying a lot.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 3:14 pm

      I don’t remember any time in my life where it felt like the country was so divided. Working from home is the place to be these days.

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  12. Wonderful post, Pete. I’m glad you’ve got your mojo back. You and I seem to have the same kind of marriage, lots of goofiness and lots of love. I don’t feel as if the lockdown has affected me too much, perhaps because I’m kind of a homebody to start with. That opinion could change when we go back to teaching in person in a few weeks. I’ll admit that has me a bit concerned…

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 3:24 pm

      I’m the chief organizer of my friends. The problem is there hasn’t been much to organize lately. I am grateful to have a wife who gets me. Glad you are blessed that way, too. I hope you have a great school year.

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      1. Well I am sure your first get together will be memorable…
        It will be an interesting year to say the least…

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  13. Thoughtful reflections, Pete! Grateful for so many things… Spending more time with hubby is one of them!

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 3:26 pm

      There are so many things to be thankful for, and I know this is just a blip on the radar. Nice to have a loving spouse to turn to.

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  14. I know what you are talking about about the feeling down re: everything has changed, and I’ve nothing to do, and then something helps you snap out of it. I had a similar experience watching Car Karaoke with Paul McCartney and James Corden; it was a very uplifting and moving music video to watch. I sang along with the songs, and really enjoyed watching Paul interact with people on the street and in the pubs. It was amazing to watch how happy people were to see him and sing along with the songs.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 4, 2020 — 6:01 pm

      We all have things that lift us out of the doldrums. The trick is to find what that might be. I hope things are going well with you and Marsha. I talked to someone who had been to the gym in Cutten. She told me that she and her husband were two of the three people there. It seems a bit premature to me, but who knows?

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  15. We all went through a transitional period Pete. Thanks for eloquently writing about yours. I will tell y ou though that now I’m singing those songs in my head. LOL :). The image of you singing to your wife was adorable!

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    1. petespringerauthor July 5, 2020 — 12:00 pm

      It’s funny how certain activities seem to encourage singing. Thank goodness I’m alone in the shower, and no one can hear me. 😎

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  16. My wife suffers from getting songs stuck in her head–both ones she hates and ones she loves. She doesn’t sing them, but unfortunately at times it’s me who brings them up with a one line lyrical (and sometimes audio too) reference from a word association. Normally, for my own sake, I leave the voiced songs to myself in my office.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 5, 2020 — 11:57 am

      It is a rather strange habit. I also have a couple of friends who pull out famous movie lines in many social situations. “Go ahead. Make my day.”

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      1. I think I’d not use that one–especially with all the people packing heat these days. But I do make use of those lines myself.

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      2. petespringerauthor July 5, 2020 — 6:22 pm

        Me neither.

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  17. I am glad you got your writing impulse back and were reunited with your group. My life has changed mainly because friends across the country who usually fly in for a visit are all homebound. We Facetime, but it certainly isn’t the same. Also about now we are getting in the mood for our September trek to Maine or Quebec. I am quite melancholy about not getting to go there this year. Connecticut has a handle on the virus, but it makes little difference given the appalling statistics in the rest of the country. Having been hardest hit in the beginning we have almost none of that mask resistance or complaining about “our freedoms.” We watched too many die.

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    1. petespringerauthor July 5, 2020 — 6:26 pm

      I’ve been watching your home gym setup. My gym reopened this week, but it just doesn’t feel safe to go back yet. I walk each day and sometimes work out at home. It’s another one of those unexpected modifications. Good for you for sticking with it, Elizabeth!

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  18. Loved this Pete, and your raw honesty. Even happy people can get depressed. I always say if it weren’t for always having work to do, articles to write, books to write, blogs, I would go mad as an extrovert myself. Glad you found a path back. We also need to step away sometimes, it’s healthy. )

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    1. petespringerauthor July 6, 2020 — 11:33 pm

      Just telling it like it is. Debby. You’re always great about that too. Readers connect with us when we share our thoughts, fears, and joys. We’re all imperfect, but if others can identify with something we write about, then we’re making connections.

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      1. And calming others by letting them know, stuff happens and it’s how we deal 🙂

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  19. Love this, Pete, and realise now exactly what it was that was missing in my life over these Covid times – my mojo. I’m so glad yours is back and thanks for this inspiring post. Toni

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    1. petespringerauthor July 6, 2020 — 11:37 pm

      I’ve heard plenty of other creative types saying the same thing. Painters weren’t painting; sculptors weren’t molding clay, etc.. It’s easy to let things in the world throw off our balance. I used to see that as an educator all the time. The job of teaching is hard enough, even when we aren’t having personal problems.

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